Inward Reflection for Men

Hello, Smiling Faces!

Happy Monday! Can you believe we are in the middle of March, already? This is the third blog post for men and so grateful for the feedback and support!  Please continue to share with your co-workers, friends and family.

Do you take time to self-reflect and evaluate yourself? At some point in life, we all tend to take a moment to reflect on many things. Somewhere along the journey, complications seems to arise in the form of disappointment. We experience low and high moments, caused by many factors. Life happens and we tend to try to fix or improve the outer layers, instead of focusing on what lies within. Our joy and peace brings internal happiness. When looking at this way of life, our vulnerability becomes very evident: we have allowed our emotions, thoughts and desires to be influenced by external circumstances, none of which are in control. We often anticipate things will soon fall apart. As long as our inner life is controlled by outer situations, we will always be in a devastating position.

Self-evaluation and reflection allows for an increased awareness for our own well-being. We are often in the midst of situations beyond our control and some we may have control over.  The best way to handle these type of situations, is to go inward and recognize our true state of being. Our joy, happiness and peace cannot be attained by external factors. When you look deep within yourself, do you see peace or internal conflict? We all learn from the past bad experiences, but thinking about them too much won’t allow you to live in the present. Consider the entire situation as motivation to be a better person.

I often talk to many people and some are wandering through life with no purpose, no intention and no clarity about what they need to do to make this life count. We are not on this earth to just exist. We all need a vision for our future. Life moves in one direction. Stop wasting your time. Move forward with purpose. Live your life with a sense of urgency. Make a bold decision right now and go make life happen.

I have a simple challenge for you. Write down three things that you want to do, but are too scared to start. What’s holding you back? Commit to taking action on these items over the next 30 days. Check in with me and let me hold you accountable.

I am very excited about this journey in sharing “Man Monday Motivation” the third Monday of each month. I previously mentioned having a Spring workshop for men, but decided to put that on hold until a later date. I would love to connect with you on a conference call to see how these monthly blog posts are working for you. You’ve shared a few ideas that I am excited about.  Send me a note if you are interested.

Thank you for reading and continue to share with those around you.

Have a wonderful week!

Sherill

 

 

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Mid-Week Motivation

Happy Wednesday!

Happy Hump Day! It’s a windy day here in Memphis with temperatures in the 60’s! Can you believe it? Hold tight…the cold breeze is scheduled to return very soon. It’s my last day of work for the week and excited to spend several days off with my family on vacation. It’s Spring Break and I need a break!

How do you wind down for a few days? The back thoughts of needing a vacation from a vacation, comes to mind. Sometimes, just taking a few days to gather your thoughts, reflect  on your life and spending time with family and friends are the best times…and ohhhh a great book! What are you currently reading? I must admit, I love to read!

This is your mid-week reminder to surround yourself with positivity and those who see the greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself. We all endure struggles, pain points and those trying days of defeat. Hold on…don’t give up!

We all are a work…in…progress!

Have a wonderful week!

Always SMILE…

Sherill

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March Into A New Mindset

Hello, Smiling Faces!

Happy March! Did I just say that? This is the last month of the first quarter. What happened to January and February?! March is here! Soon, we will be captivated by flowers blooming, birds chirping, the happiness of a new season and celebrating Women’s Month, but there is a slight chance of snow this weekend. Let’s watch and see!

Over the last couple of months, many adapted to embracing new endeavors, eating healthy, and exercising regularly, but how often do we think of changing our mindset?
In most cases, it starts with a decision. A decision to change our thoughts, patterns and actions. I’m totally on board for changing the way I approach and react towards things. I am truly adapting to the mantra, “Protect Your Energy” because it all starts with how you react and respond. Don’t give in to always having to respond with the same energy, or behavior brought to you; especially the negative side of things. Keep peace and joy in your heart. Have Faith. Embrace Hope. Spread Love.

Your mindset affects the energy you give off, which controls the energy you receive. Hopefully, you have written down goals and dreams for this year, that will also require having a strong mindset to make those a reality. Don’t focus all your time on the long term resolution, but actively putting in the work consistently will offer you maximum results. It’s so easy to jump five steps and miss the message at step two. Consistency will elevate you.

What mindset shift will you embrace? Will it be to change the way you think about fitness, goals or time management? Your ultimate decision will require dedication and motivation. Focus on the positive aspect and not the negative nuisances. Keep in mind, that life will sometimes get in the way of our best plans. Whatever the goal or desire may be, we should always see ourselves achieving them.

Here are a few tips to changing your mindset:

– Shape Your Mindset With A Vision And Specific Goals

– Practice Positive Affirmations

– Be Confident In Your Abilities To Excel

Focusing on the positive aspects helps us to feel more engaged and empowered. Cultivate the habit of being grateful for where you are in life.

Always SMILE…

Sherill

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Self-Care for Men

Hello, Smiling Faces!

Happy February! February is the month of love. Valentine’s Day was celebrated a few days ago and hopefully, you showed love to those dear to your heart. This is the second blog post for men and I’ve received a lot of great feedback. Thank you so much for reading and sharing with others! Since February is the month of love, I would like to share a few thoughts on self-care and loving on yourself. Men, let’s dive in!

How often do you incorporate self-care as part of your overall well-being? Practicing self-care isn’t always easy. With busy schedules, demanding careers, or supportive families it can be difficult to find the time.  Self-care isn’t just for women. Men can enjoy it as well. Most men are conditioned to think of themselves as providing for their families and will tend to put themselves last on the priority list.  Men, self-care is important and you should prioritize it as well.

Do you routinely play down those days of feeling tired or experiencing those trying moments? Do you find the time to slow down and regroup? Women generally find the time, whether it’s a moment to catch up with girlfriends, enjoying a pampering day or home relaxing with a bubble bath and candles burning. Many men feel as if the only way to succeed or be successful is to become a workaholic. The idea of taking care of yourself may make you feel weak or feminine. Let me break that mindset and LOUDLY say that is incorrect! You deserve it. Men tend to fall back when it comes to self-care and the lack thereof, can result in chronic aches and pains to lacking energy. Your mood will change and alter your behavior and thinking.

You are worth every bit of love and care you desire, want and need. Self-care is an investment of time to slow down and take care of yourself. It is about promoting and increasing your overall mental, physical and spiritual well-being.

Here are a few self-care tips:

1.  Make Time for Yourself. Get organized. This is the first step. Making time for yourself isn’t selfish, it is necessary to becoming your best self. Maybe it’s going to the gym, reading your favorite magazine or listening to your favorite album. Enjoying some alone time will allow for deep meditation.

2. Pamper Yourself.  Schedule a facial, manicure or pedicure. A relaxation massage is always a great idea. Pamper days are not just for women. Take advantage of some time to be pampered.

3. Manage Stress. Recognize your burnout signs. Sometimes, you may have to take a short break from a particular task or work project. Taking a half hour or so to clear your mind can make a huge difference. Journaling is a perfect way to jot down your thoughts and clear your mind.

4. Exercise. Daily exercise can help you both physically and mentally. It may be hard for you to go to the gym frequently, but try to incorporate exercise to your daily routine.  If time prevents a lengthy workout, spend some time outside or go for a leisure walk or run.

5. Quick Getaway. Take some time to rest, relax and rejuvenate. It does not require taking a week’s worth of vacation days. A perfect staycation is always a good idea. Taking a short break over the weekend, allows for you to return with a clear mind and can increase productivity.

Are you fostering healthy and nurturing relationships? It’s important to engage with those that you care about, and that respect and love you. Maintaining healthy relationships has been shown to positively influence your life. Self-care is a necessity for your mind, body and soul.  Schedule your self-care time, and guard that time with everything you have. It’s a mindset that we all can embrace on a regular basis.

Have a wonderful week!

Sherill

 

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Happy February – Love Yourself

Hello, Smiling Faces!

Happy February! Where did January go? I mean…it is gonneeee! I must admit that the start of January was a little rocky for me, but I kept pressing and moving along.  February is here and it’s truly the month of love and Black History Month. Black History Month honors the contributions of African Americans in history. It’s an annual celebration of achievements, history and success.

Valentines’s Day is around the corner and the color red will be in full force, as love is blossoming in the air. Some of you may be single or feeling the effects of loneliness, but don’t allow for that to make you sad on Valentine’s Day or any other day. Go out and love on YOU! Buy yourself a bouquet of roses or treat yourself to dinner. Let’s dig a little deeper and love ourselves more. Yes, loving yourself and making YOU a priority! It’s not selfish to love ourselves. Having a deeper appreciation to loving you, allows for you to love others.

Unfortunately, we often feel we have to lose the weight, get that dream job or be in that happy relationship, but I challenge you to start loving YOU, right where you are. Take a look at what may be hindering you from loving you. When we look to things or people to make us happy, we are setting ourselves up for a lot of disappointment.

Here are a few ways to loving yourself more:

  1. Be positive. We all are guilty in allowing the negative bug to enter our lives. Focus on being positive.
  2. Encourage yourself. Look in the mirror and affirm your greatness. Empower yourself with encouraging words and affirmations.
  3. Forgive yourself. We all make mistakes and just maybe you haven’t allowed yourself to be forgiven. Don’t keep repeating past mistakes or failures in your head. Let it go and LIVE!
  4. Exercise. Exercise is a great way to release stress and build your self-motivation. I am truly enjoying kickboxing and feeling great!
  5. Practice gratitude. Be grateful.  Do you journal? If not, start today. Journaling is a perfect way for you to write down your thoughts and feelings. I will be hosting a repeat course of Journaling 101 very soon.

Well, it’s the start of a new month. Let’s kick ourselves in gear and make February an awesome month!

Always SMILE…

Sherill

 

 

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Are You MENtally Fit?

Hello, Smiling Faces!

Happy Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day! Today, we acknowledge and celebrate the life, legacy and achievements of an influential leader, during the Civil Rights Movement. I am happy to share the very FIRST Blog Post dedicated to men “Man Monday Motivation” and I am SUPER excited! I am thrilled to introduce new blogging content for men only, on the 3rd Monday of each month. I will continue to bring content to my faithful subscribers and readers. Please share with others. Let’s dive in…

I’ve been an Inspirational Blogger for a few years and thoroughly enjoy it. About a year ago, the thought of preparing content for men came to mind. After much thought and feedback regarding the interest, here I am. I took the leap! The reading nature of men and women differ, so I am looking at alternative ways to be interactive. Stay tuned!

The first topic that I want to share is “Are You MENtally Fit”? Mental fitness is just as important as physical fitness and should not be neglected. Yes, you are the protector, father figure and the role model, but to achieve all these things, you have to be inspired and encouraged as well. Men need just as much encouraging as women.

A few men that I surveyed, stated showing signs of weakness is looked upon differently than women. In most cases, men tend to hide or shelter their feelings, when in fact they struggle with similar things just as women. Men feel pressure to act tough and hide weakness. This can have damaging effects on your health and relationships. It’s the start of a new year and many are striving to keep the momentum going with fitness and goals; however, we have to also focus on our mentality and perspective.

Regardless of what goal or dream you have, current profession or future career, it requires a certain mindset. We all face challenges in life. A change in perspective can make all the difference. Cultivating a growth mindset can help you focus on goals in life. If you want real change, you have to reframe your mindset. You’re not in control of everything that happens to you, but you are in control of how you respond. Your mind is your most powerful force. You can succeed in changing your mindset in how you respond to challenges, setbacks and opportunities. As you embark on this new year, focus on changing your mindset and how you respond to certain situations.

Here are a few tips on cultivating a healthy mindset:

1. Challenge Your Thoughts. What are you thinking? Is it positive or negative?Recognize your thoughts in how you are perceiving them. You may not fully recognize the depth of your internal destruction. Release judgement. Focus on your strengths. Speak positive affirmations over your life.

2. Life Balance. Life is very much a balancing act. We are constantly moving at a high pace in achieving our life’s purpose, goals and elements of our lives. In looking at the various aspects of our lives; we are juggling family, career, and growth. It can be challenging to devote ample energy to all areas. Assess your priorities and set realistic goals to achieving them. Rest and exercise is key. You can’t be everything to everybody, but you can make small adjustments to ensure what matters most. Balance in all things are essential to creating a life you can be proud of.

3. Practice Gratitude. Gratitude is when we feel or express thankfulness for the people, things and experiences we have. When we are grateful for the little things, we find more meaning and satisfaction. Being grateful boost your self esteem, enhance empathy and improve your overall psychological health. Writing down a few things you are grateful for is probably the easiest way to focus on the good things, rather than dwell on the bad things.

Keeping ourselves mentally fit, is as important as being physically fit. As I share more over this year; I welcome your feedback, comments and suggestions, via the Contact Form on my website http://www.sherillrdavis.com or email: sherilldavis13@gmail.com. I am looking to host my very first workshop for men in Spring 2019! More details to come.

I am very exited about this journey and look forward to sharing more “Man Monday Motivation” content on February 18th. It’s just the beginning!

More to come…

Sherill

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Take Responsibility

Hello, Smiling Faces!

Happy Saturday! The weather is beautiful! I completed a morning run soaking up some needed sunshine. Officially, we are in a new year! 2019 is here!

It’s time to take responsibility for your life…full circle. The moment you take responsibility for everything in your life, you will feel empowered. When you own what’s happening in your life, you can really start to shape your future. What role do you play in your life? Actions? Choices? This will truly lead you to becoming more accountable. Accountability is crucial in having a good relationship with people around you, as well as with yourself. We all are responsible for our actions and what we impose on others. In sharing some positive light, make sure you celebrate your successes and wins in life. You have to take responsibility for your happiness.  Celebrate yourself!

In taking responsibility for your life, you are the driver of your journey. You are in the driver’s seat. It’s important to know your limits and boundaries. This will prevent you from taking responsibility for what you can’t control.

Here are a few ways you can take responsibility for your life:

1. Stop complaining. Complaining is a sure way of being the victim.  Not all things will go as plan. Don’t blame others, take responsibility. Make the necessary changes and adjust.

2. Make yourself happy. In most cases, it’s the small things. Do what makes you happy. Take responsibility for your happiness. Happiness is an inside job. Keep a gratitude journal and reflect on all the things you are grateful for.

3. Live now. Live in the present moment. Take responsibility for this moment and cherish everything. Don’t focus on the past. Create what you can be proud of. Crush those goals with confidence. Make those dreams come true!

Be intentional about everything. Have a vision for your life, your family, your friendships, your career/business, your health, etc.

Always SMILE…

Sherill

 

 

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